Sigh…

Wow has it been a long couple of months. Sorry to my followers for the lack of post, way too many other things going on.

Ok, first some history…

I was married at the way to young age of 18 and first child by 19 (na na na nineteen, for those that get the song) and all while in the army. My wife then was 6 years older than me and Korean. We had our problems at times communicating, getting over cultural differences, and a military lifestyle to deal with. I do feel she has some variation of depression so that to was a running problem. I also believe she was/is a bit racists, as in, she never wanted the kids to learn Korean and talked about how they were American and should only learn that. We had two kids together, both daughters which was another point we didn’t agree on. She wanted boys, I so only wanted girls. Divorced in the mid 90’s, remarried a couple of years later and am still married.

So jumping ahead to now, my ex still calls me if she has a problem, needs someone to talk to, or just to vent at someone. Her current husband still cannot talk to her about everything, so I get the pleasure of explaining things to her at times that he can’t.

But, my whole reason for this history lesson is this; her and her husband promised our youngest that her collage would be paid for so she enrolled. She started her first quarter, was told not to worry about it, so she didn’t. Now the quarter is over, they didn’t pay it all so now she can’t register for next quarter and has now had to move back home. She made that decision; didn’t want to keep going through this. So she is now going to go to a cheaper and closer college for a year. Going to get a job to cover her own schooling so she can go back to where she wants to be.

I don’t totally blame the ex, her husband more. He was the one with connections at the school and promised they get it taken care of. She has enough troubles right now, new business, lost their house, and he spent 9 days in the ICU recently. With all that going on… Oh well, another day another problem to fix.

Let’s see, what else has been happening?

Well, same daughter was assaulted by her now ex boyfriend. He hit her so hard he broke his hand. She has not a mark on her, other than a broken heart. But she now has a new guy taking a lot of interest in her and they are now dating, we’ll see where that goes. But for now it was good for her to see she was wanted by others (self-image and youth problems).

Other daughter, older one, has been saving her money for a car, and to go back to school. She has recently become engaged to her current boy toy, we called him Mr. Right-now for a long while. I’m not sure how I fell about him as I see her having to argue with him about things that I would not think anyone would see the way he does. He has a lot of chauvinistic outlooks on life and that just will not cut it with her, so they fight. But he must be doing something right; she has kept him this long. But time will tell…

With all this I am going back to school for some software classes and maybe take enough to transfer my other school credits and life experiences into enough credits to get that paper degree. I think it would be nice get but don’t get me wrong I will take real world experience and training over classroom work any day.

I thought my cat was dying but it turned out to be a hyperthyroid. Now we need to give him a pill 3 times a day. And feed him special food for awhile to rebalance his system. Not that any of this would of matter if I had just killed him last night for looking at me and pooping on the carpet. But he is still alive by sheer force of will on my part.

Other things going on in my life are; helping to plan two conventions, coding the software to run one of them, trying to stay ahead of bills, and hoping this next year will be better for everyone.

I know I need to answer a few of you back and Thank you to Heather for the Award. I will try to get to all this soon!!

c Shell Franklin